Laura Chapman

If you are carrying the weight of a traumatic past, you’ve probably heard the standard advice a thousand times: “You just need to talk about it.” So you book the therapy sessions. You sit on the couch. And you force yourself to dig up the most painful moments of your life and put them into words. But instead of feeling a sense of release, you leave feeling raw, exhausted, and completely untangled. Your heart is racing, your hands are shaking, and you’re stuck in a state of high alert for days...

– Does the focus on healing actually pull us away from living fully. Every time I look at Instagram or Facebook, I see people stating they are in their ‘healing era’… but what the hell does this even mean?! Sometimes, I think we’re all so busy ‘healing’ that we forget to actually live. When people go through things, and I’m talking HUGE things. Traumatic things. Things that no one should ever have to go through;...

OK firstly, some people may not like this blog post! When we talk about manipulation in relationships, we usually think about more overt forms of coercive behaviour. What I want to talk about today is much more subtle and, not surprisingly... can be linked back to attachment styles. Just a quick note on attachment: In one of my last blogs, I describe Attachment styles and discuss the anxious – avoidant trap, and in case you haven’t read it (here). However, because people pleasing is often...